The Arborium in fog and Gods light.
Chances are your mastery mission is not an overnight journey, and so it has to matter to you.
How a scuba diving emergency illustrates key principles of conflict resolution …
Three thousand people walled in by four-deep lines of riot police for eight-hours. What did I see? A story of rapport and a couple of molotov cocktails.
“From your case history and the tests we’ve done… it looks as if you have ALS, a Motor Neurone Disease.”
These strategies are for people who’ve been diagnosed with a terminal or life threatening illness. If that’s you, I’m sharing these strategies because I know something about what you’re going through…
This is a mental agility technique; refocusing your mind away from what you cannot control (powerless) and on to what you can control (powerful) i.e. your choices.
Does the language you use matter when describing how you’re approaching your condition? “I’m going to fight this disease!” vs. “I’m going to heal it from my body!” Which sounds more useful?
I once coached a cricketer who had a goal of regaining his place on a high-ranking team. His major insight was this; being 100% ‘present’ at the crease is the only thing that would get him there. Nothing else other than his best performance, moment to moment at the crease, would get him back on the team.
We shouldn’t confine ‘legacy’ to material values only, instead it can be based on human values such as authenticity and generosity.
Mantra 'Live what I love' This goes hand-in-hand with reprioritising what’s important to you in life and having daily rituals. For me, moving towards simplicity was about letting go of whole load of things that in my new reality were not important. Instead of this, as...
Design or refine your daily rituals to help create and embed a positive mindset. In the early days of being (mis)diagnosed with ALS, I wanted everyday to be a day that I could be present with my kids, and if I was going to do that, I needed to be in a good space.
“What can you learn from this?” is one of the best questions in the world. It requires humility to answer, increases self-awareness and has great potential to progress change.
Letting the people who care about you know that your life may soon end, will create a shock wave – it’s hard to predict with certainty people’s responses. It also not unusual for the person who has the illness to become the strongest person in the picture.
Many of the people around you won’t have experienced what you’re going through, and so they can only imagine what it’s like. They love you and will want to help, and sometimes this means they’ll guess how you’re feeling and what you need from them.
With your own diagnosis, succinctly and specifically, what’s your message? If there’s a conversation you need to have with the Universe, God or alike (whichever suits), what do you need to say? How do you need to express it? With anger or without? Publicly or privately?
That fierce instinct to protect our children, which most parents will understand, sang-out to me in those first few days of being (mis)diagnosed with ALS. The idea that I’d be around to support my children as they travel the highs and lows of life was now clearly an assumption I’d been making. The next trial they were about to face was losing their father.
DIAGNOSIS, STRATEGIES TO HELP: Double-check appointments, make sure the right tests are being booked and always ask questions to establish your options. Some healthcare systems are extremely under-resourced, and so mistakes can happen and delays occur.
DIAGNOSIS, STRATEGIES TO HELP: There are plenty of treatments, therapies and approaches to curing/treating illnesses that sit outside of mainstream medicine and if your life is on the line, then all options are on the table.
DIAGNOSIS, STRATEGIES TO HELP: Chances are, receiving the news of a serious threat to your health will prioritise what’s important to you in your life. Be active in this process – as I discovered, if you suddenly realise you’ve been entertaining meaningless crap, you now have permission to drop it.